Welcome to the forum.
Just know that the kit isnt totally silent, so the stick sound might still be annoying to the wife, you might have to see how to get around that (by getting her earphones, or having the telly play over the kit noise, or isolating the drum room, etc).
TD9+6v module, KD-8, custom Diamond Electronic 12" snare + 2x8" + 2x10" toms, PD-85, 4xPD8, 2xCY8, CY-5, CY-12r/c, Pearl P902 double pedals, Diamond Electronic COWBELL!
HPD-10 ATH-50M phones and 4 Vex Packs for the TD-9
Gibson Les Paul. + pod xtl, Norman acoustic, Fender J-Bass + gt10b
Clavia Nord Stage 2 Synth/Stage Piano Samson SR850 'phones
cubase, garritan personal orchestra, JABB, symphonic choirs, Sibelius, reason 6.5, IPAD 2 with lots of soft synths...
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